War of the Worlds

 There are a bazillion different theories on the relationship between men and women. For every human that can speak, you will find some variant on the roles of the sexes. In our modern society, we have declared war on the opposite sex, but most have no idea what we are fighting for, or if we are even still fighting. As a married woman, this "war" situation puts me in a bit of a pickle. I am eating, living, and sleeping with the enemy. I'm not the only one. This begs to question, is there still a war of the sexes?

Recently, I watched the movie Crazy Stupid Love. The ladies man character, Jacob, played by Ryan Gosling, proclaims, "The war between the sexes is over. We won the second women started pole dancing for exercise." Interesting. Many women go to these pole dance classes because feeling sexy is empowering for women. I've been to a couple of these classes and men are hardly part of the equation. Each woman is watching herself in the mirror, admiring, critiquing, learning herself. Although, men reap a few benefits, pole dance classes are not about men. 

I thought about all of this while watching movies with the enemy. Then, I realized the cause of this "war." Miscommunication. Men see one thing (pole dance class), think something (strippers, hot sex, SCORE!), and formulate an opinion (woman wants to please her man). Women see one thing (pole dance class), think something (that'll be fun and sexy), and formulate an opinion (my friends will love this). How do we fix it?

War is not the answer. Constantly criticizing, complaining, and bickering about the other sex doesn't work. We've already tried that. Contrary to what people may say, all men are NOT dogs, and all women are NOT bitches. Both men and women have capacities for right and wrong. It all depends on the person. My humble suggestion is that we see each other as equals. Realize that where women may be weak in an area, men are strong in that area. Simultaneously, an area of weakness for men, is an area of strength for women. We need each other because that's the way God planned it. Who are we to question it?